Monday, April 25, 2011

Second Chance...

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Ignorance is Bliss...

If you have been cheated on this statement may or may not ring true.
There are those who want to know...who need to know...
Then there people who "think" they want to know.... until they actually know...

Once the secret is revealed there is no turning back. Either leave or stay
But which road you choose to travel is a very personal choice and one than cannot be taken lightly.

If you decide to stay.. I suggest that you make a list of what you need to know about the infidelity. Sometimes it is the "details" of the act that you have to forgive not the act itself.
Was it a one night stand or a full on affair? Does it even matter?
Was it a physical indiscretion or an emotional attachment? To you which is worse?

Did your partner admit the secret or did you bust them?
This is very important.. if the person admitted the betrayal then they may appear truly guilty and remorseful for the act.
But at the same time the person may just simply have kept the secret to save you the heartache of knowing... when really the act meant nothing to them.

I took the road less traveled.... I chose to stay with the person who betrayed me.
This is not for everyone... this was NOT an easy decision to make.
It literally took years to rebuild the trust that was broken.

Here's the point....
"IF" you have something worth saving... allow yourself the time to decide what path you want to take. Irrational decisions are easy to make in the heat of the moment and more difficult to take back.

Have a support system in place... one that will support you even if they disagree with what you decide.

Second chances... are not to be taken lightly or handed out lightly.
Not everyone is worthy of a second chance... that is something that only you can decide.
Most importantly know... you are not alone in your pain.
But also be aware that you will be a stronger person for having been through this pain one day you may be able to share your story to help another.
There is lesson to be learned in every moment of life... just sometimes it takes the clouds a little longer to part so you can see the view.

Sunday, April 24, 2011

Live in the Present...

If anxiety is caused by looking forward and depression is looking into the past.... RabiesLove followers I suggest that we try to stay present and keep moving forward...

So you fell off the wagon over the weekend...
Weekends are dangerous times for people trying to improve their lives by abstaining from their drug of choice.
What is worse is if someone had a weak moment... maybe they drank or drunk dialed or snorted a line or...SMOKED a Marlboro.... whatever you failed at we all end the weekend feeling overwhelmed with guilt and depression.

One of the biggest misconceptions people have about addicts is that they do not feel Guilt. They actually feel extreme levels of guilt.
It is the guilt of using that sometimes causes them to use again...and again.. they are trying to numb the guilty feeling with their drug of choice.
The cycle of chaos continues on.

You have to let go of the guilt and live in the present. Try to enjoy... right now.
If the person you love has any type of addiction problem remember to forgive and not constantly dwell on their mistakes.... you too have to learn to live in the present.

So as you start a new week try to live each day without the guilt of the past looming in the corner...
I mean the worst that can happen is... you may actually enjoy the present...

Friday, April 22, 2011

You Just Can't Make A Whore... A Housewife



There is an old saying "You can't make a whore...A Housewife"
Let's see...

Phil meets Angie about 2 years ago...
Angie has a celebrity status in their hometown.... she is the town whore. Now being the town whore is not her actual career path... it is simply a hobby.

Now we are not here to pyscho analize why Angie chooses to fuck every man that shows her a hard on. That is for another day...
The fact is just simply... she is a white trash whore.

Phil is fully aware that Angie is a whore when they meet up. Actually the first time they have sex is about an hour after meeting. Phil also was fully aware that she was in a "relationship" when they had sex. They talked openly about everyone that she had slept with Phil promised he was perfectly ok with her sexual appetite.
Even with all of this knowledge.... Phil is hooked.
Like the first hit of Crack... there is no going back.

Everyone is asking WHY is he taking her out in public, Angie was never known as the girl to take home to mom.
The more people voice concern over Angie's well known repetation.... the more he is convinced that he can "change" her.
They move in together... rumors start.
Angie is fucking around.
Phil does not believe it.... they are "in LOVE" Phil lashes out to his friends and family and claims they are just jealous of the intense relationship he and Angie share.

Angie just needs to feel secure so... they elope.
Phil is certain that with the title "wife" Angie was going to evolve into the lady he wanted to believe that she was.
Angie professes that she has never loved anyone the way she loves Phil....but her vagina just requires more than one penis.
A few months after they elope... Angie fucks one of Phil's drunk friends while Phil is passed out in their bed after a party.
The friend confesses the next day overwelmed with guilt.
Phil does not believe him. Angie denies the betrayl.

The friendship is ruined and Phil looks like a fool.

One year later Angie and Phil are currently broken up due to Angie's vagina's inability to accommadate only one penis.

Phil calls his mother seeking comfort and instead she simply says "Son, what did you expect? You just can't make a whore a housewife."

Thursday, April 21, 2011

Baby, I'll Call You Right Back....

What place value do you hold in someones life? What place value do they hold in yours?
Do you know?
Do you want to know?

Let's take a little test...


If you are talking to your significant other on the phone when all of a sudden he/she comments "Hey Baby, I'll call you right back..." or the two of you are together and they leave you saying "Baby, I will be right back"

"Right Back" means.... an hour or LESS not FIVE hours and counting! Really!
How do you wait?

Do you sit by the phone and wait? Do you keep count of the minutes they are gone? Do you start other tasks but keep checking your cell impulsively to see if you missed a call?

If your answered yes... Chances are... you have RabiesLove for this person! Seek older blogs on this page to assist you on your journey of chaos.

Now if this person does calls you back within a reasonable time frame then the person is respectful of your feelings and your time so... Chances Are... your place value is high in this persons life.

On the other hand, if this happens frequently, by that I mean daily... and the person DOES NOT call you back until the end of the night and then has some lame excuse like "oh baby I have been so busy" this person DOES NOT value you or respect your time.

Generally, it has been my experience that it is men who behave this way... and the ones that do... usually are juggling more than one woman. Sorry, its sad but true.

If a person constantly keeps you waiting... WHY the hell are you WAITING??
Technology allows us to send text messages, tweets, emails, FaceBook, etc.
There is no reason to keep someone waiting, without an explanation as to why.

Would this person like if right before they were about to have an orgasm... you get up and said "oh baby I'll be right back"???

So the next time some habitually leaves you waiting...
STOP WAITING!! Do not settle for anything less than 1st place.

Friday, April 15, 2011

Control...

There are things that you can control in life....
Then there are the things/people that you have to learn and accept that you cannot control.
You have utter control over how you let people treat you. Do I need to repeat that??
If someone in your life is being disrespectful to you... remove them.
Remember you are CEO of your life and you can hire and fire the people who are involved in your world.

Eddie and Lori have been together only about a year.
At first in true RabiesLove fashion life was wonderful, perfect Eddie was convinced he had met the woman he was going to marry.
Lori was consumed with Eddie where he was, what he was doing, who he was with...
Eddie told his friends "Oh she just has trust issues, because the last guy cheated on her, once she realizes that I'm not like that she will stop"
Lori however does not stop... she becomes more and more paranoid about Eddie. Lori claims to have no control over her obsessive behavior.

Eddie decides that he cannot deal with the accusations anymore and attempts to break things off with Lori.
Lori completely has an emotional breakdown she is hysterical... she is threatening to kill herself... because she cannot live without Eddie.

Now Eddie does not want to be with Lori but claims he "has to" stay with her because if he does not she is going to hurt herself.

Ok.
First, "if" someone has trust issues that is out of your control. It is not your responsibility to fix the ex's mistakes.
Second, I take all suicide threats seriously. If someone makes this type of threat they are asking for help. They may need professional help.
This is why I strongly suggest that when people profess that they literally cannot "live or breathe" without another person..... BEWARE!

Realize that you only have control over your OWN actions... and sometimes that is difficult enough to handle...
You will never have control over others actions.
If they want to cheat on you... they will.
If they want to abuse you...they will.
If they want to use drugs...they will.
And sadly if a person really wants to end their life... they will.

Nothing that you do to "babysit" or "stalk" will change anything. Why? Because you are only in Control of you.
You are not the puppet master over another...

Wednesday, April 6, 2011

Beware of the Psycho Stalker....

"You are my world"
"You are ALL I think about"
"NO ONE will ever Love you like I do"
"Baby, you are my everything"
"I can not think of anyone other than you"
and my personal favorite.... "You are in every fantasy I have"

Now unless you are 15, if these comments are made to you..."Ready, Set, RUN!"
Seriously.. I do not care how "sweet" you want to believe these comments are... dig deep down and realize that the person, who is proclaiming this undying affection, is also showing early symptoms potentially becoming a Psycho Stalker.....
NOT everyone will be a stalker.... but MOST have the serious potential....learn the signs.

First, lets debunk the myth, that Psycho Stalkers are unattractive... So not TRUE.
This fact alone will make it very difficult to resist the stalker initially.
You think OMG this Hot man/woman is "in Love" with me!!
No... this person is obsessed with you.... BIG Difference!

Everyone wants to be...part of someone's life. What you DO NOT want is to become someone's EVERYTHING!!
What that will translate into is.... if you miss a call, the person will become angry and suspisious.
If you go out with friends.....you will be interrogated when you return home like you are 12.
If you work for the public.... you will find that this person shows up to say "hi" 3 to 4 times a week, even though he/she is calling you at least 10 times during the work day. After all, you are EVERYTHING!

Now you two are together ALL the time... and instead of the person establishing trust the person will become more and more obsessed with "where you are" for the few hours you two are apart.
I know guys who literally have GPS on their girlfriends cars and sit at the computer and call them just to ask "Hey where are you?" to see if they are lying.
I also know girls who have bugged the guys car to hear who he talks to on the way to work.

All of this is NOT normal.... adults in healthy relationships give each other space and respect the other person's privacy and most importantly they TRUST each other.

The person who wakes up in the, Rabid Hot Mess, with the Psycho Stalker, will eventually want OUT!
This is the point where the person is in serious danger!
Remember you, are now some one's EVERYTHING!

The Psycho Stalker does NOT take breakups well.
Seriously.... you will first have to endure the crying, then the anger, then the person will try and guilt you into staying. The Psycho Stalker will first threaten to hurt themselves if you leave then YOU will be threatened!

Now, do not be embarrassed to be in this situation. It can happen to anyone.
You are going to need help!
Find loved ones to turn to or a doctor or you really may have to go to the police.

Most important!!!
Do NOT blame yourself for some one's unstable behavior! You do NOT control the actions of others.
DO NOT stay with someone simply because you are afraid of what they will do to themselves! You CANNOT take on that responsibility!

Beware of "sweet nothings" being whispered in your hear... they my be your early signs of the Psycho Stalker.