Withdrawal...

"You just have to Stop"
This is soo easy for the person who is not Addicted to advise. The healthy person can see through the chaos and rationally decide that YOU should just leave someone or something alone....

It is like literally holding your hand over a fire passionately declaring that "this time" you will not get burned....

"Rabid Hot Mess" people are so difficult to quit...
There is a physical and mental "withdrawal" when you are removed from toxic relationships.
Chances are the person will NOT leave you alone for some period of time without involving the legal system. The "Rabid Hot Mess" will cloud your judgement and distort past events and ALWAYS finds a way to BLAME YOU!!!

STAY STRONG!!! If you are new to this blog I will repeat the fact... "the first 96hrs are the hardest" I am serious do whatever you have to do to STAY AWAY from "The Rabid Hot Mess" for at least 96hrs with NO verbal, email, text, facebook, twitter communication!!!

Most addicts of strong drugs say that their most vulnerable moments come within 96hrs of stopping "the drug of choice" this is the painful time when they are more likely to give in and use.
The same principle applies to toxic RabiesLove relationships.... you are, for whatever reason, ADDICTED to the person or the relationship.

You WILL physically feel sick... depressed, anxious, you may feel sick to your stomach. These symptoms will pass, and if you STAY STRONG you will actually start to see through the fog and realize that you were lost in the relationship.

LOSS is addiction.
An addict loses themselves in their downward spiral.
Toxic Relationships are the same. There will never be two equals. One person always loses their identity through the process.
One person has to PRETEND that everything is OK. While the other is the star of their own 24hr show.

Withdrawal... is difficult... but if you are strong enough to endure the symptoms you will have a higher success rate of entering the RabiesLove Survivor Group!!

"Slipping" into Relaspe

Not all addicts "slip"... This is the term used when someone who has been sober and then they use/drink but it not "yet" turned into a full blown.....
Relapse.

Think of it like this.... Shelia has a shopping problem.... She is in credit card debt up to the tune of about 30 grand!!!!
Shelia has acknowledge that shopping fills a void for her and has decided to NOT use her cards again!!!

Shelia has been doing GREAT she has been avoiding stores and websites she used to shop at. Then... Shelia spends about 500 on sandals and a designer bathing suit for summer.

Is it a relapse or a "slip"????
Depends on who you ask....

Everyone slips.... We are not perfect creatures.
But.... You have a choice not to slip...back into a full blown relapse.

This theory applies to any addiction from shopping to gambling to drunk dialing that fucking loser who....deep down YOU know is not worth your energy much less your cell phone minutes.


The main thing is not to beat yourself up too bad about your slip....
So, you smoked a cig or drank or snorted a gram....
Let it go and move forward.
Talk to a friend, do not isolate yourself!!! Go to a meeting, find an online chat group.
Learn from your mistake, what triggered the slip, and make a plan as to what to the next time you "feel" as though it may happen again.

Friends life is never going to be a straight road.... It is the stops along the way that helps us get to our destination.

Most of all realize YOU are NOT ALONE!!! There are millions of people around the world who have the same problems if not then just a different version of your problem and we can all learn from each other.

Have a great week!!