The "Other" Mothers...

Today is Mother's Day in the USA. A day to celebrate and honor the wonderful, supportive, nurturing mothers.

But.... what if you have one of the "other" mothers???

Not everyone has that idea "perfect" mother. There are women who carry babies around for nine months and then leave them. There are women who start out trying to be a good mother and loose interest for what ever reason.
The are many mothers who are addicts and their addictions just more important than the children they brought into the world. There are mothers who are spending the next couple of years in prison.
There are mothers who abuse their children or allow others to abuse their children. Less extreme but more common is the neglectful mother who just is too involved with herself to even notice her children.


Hopefully, if this sounds like the woman who gave birth to you.... you lived with someone else growing up....
If not... I am sorry you had to endure that life and you did nothing to deserve that childhood.
This is a taboo topic for people. No one wants to bad mouth their mother.
But... we need to be realistic. Just because women CAN reproduce does not mean that they SHOULD.
These children often grow up feeling inadequate and abandoned.
Will's mother gave birth when she was 17. By the time she was 20 she was a coke addict and left him with his father. Will's father remarries and he claims his step mother as "mom". Will was old enough to remember his birth mother and from time to time she would pop in his life and declare her love and adoration for him.
Even though Will had a secure family home life, every year at Mother's Day he would wonder why he was not enough for his birth mother.
By the time Will completed high school his birth mother had given birth to other children repeating the same pattern as she did with him.
Now in college, Will is in therapy, he has problems with relationships, he is still trying to fill a void that... was left 19 years earlier.

Will is finally learning that he is not ALONE and that other people have been through similar if not worse childhoods.
So.... if you have a toxic "other" mother....
Today on Mother's Day... Take Control and change your thoughts on the relationship.
Yes, this "other" mother is horrible. You are NOT. You are stronger for having dealt with her. You can little by little simply accept who she is and who she is not.

The wonderful reality about being an adult is that you do not have to settle with the family your born into! You can create your adult family! There are many women out there who would LOVE to fill in as mom for you. Be thankful to that "other" mother for bringing you into the world...even if that is ALL she did.... and simply let her go.

You have to let go of the past... and claim your future!