Three Days Grace - Break

It's Friday...

I have always said Beware of the Weekends...
But tonight I am going to give you some Musical entertainment!
Instead of sitting around being sad because he/she did not call or stood you up... Avoid repeat calls and Facebook status checks!! Keep busy!! Scroll down our Blog and enjoy some angry Friday Night Music videos!!

Music has a wonderful ability to alter moods.. So move past your being sad and upset about the toxic person in your life and ignite some anger and find the strength within to tell Rabid Hot Mess in your life to LEAVE!!

Tomorrow is a whole new day to start over!
I'll try to add more videos tonight and tomorrow night and if you have any more songs that you think we should add to the the Friday Night Video list let me know and I'll post them! Enjoy!

Fuel - Hemorrhage (In My Hands)

Chevelle - Send The Pain Below

Three Days Grace - I Hate Everything About You

Love the Way You Lie...

Love this song. The raw truth in the the lyrics is, well, RabiesLove set to music!

RabiesLove Story of the Day!! Shawn and Asher

Shawn LOVES Asher! Shawn is totally and completely a Rabid Hot Mess over Asher. If Asher calls while Shawn is at work... she will drop everything and not only take a break but she will leave her executive position for a quickie.
The sex... is intense erotic quite simply... the best she's ever had!

The problem is... Shawn is ALWAYS available for Asher.
If he wants to vent about his stressful career he calls Shawn, if he wants his ego boosted... he calls Shawn.
Sounds Perfect? Ah, NO... this is a one way street.

Actually its a one man 24hr show The Asher Show... starring Asher, with special guest appearances by Shawn.
Asher juggles about 3 to 4 women. Asher has a very dominate personality. Asher is at first appears confident and smooth but after a short time it is clear that he is just an arogant ASSHOLE!

Shawn will try to call him repeatedly and its always a lie. "Baby, it was work"
"You are so beauitful... no one turns me on like you do" "No one has ever loved you like I do"
Lie. Lie. Lie.
Actually he is never there when she needs him... other than sex. And really even when they have sex is only on "his" terms.
But the tables turn dramactically if Shawn does not answer her phone or text within his "alloted amount of time" Asher will behave like a little spoiled brat who is not getting his way and constanstly attempts to manipulate Shawn into feeling guilty about her inability to see him ALL the time!
But that too is just a LIE!

Asher is a Rabbid Hot Mess... and Shawn knows this in her mind.... but she is going to have to let go of her LUST and this emotional connection she has created. This will enable Shawn to free herself from the RabiesLove relationship she has found herself in!

No Matter how good the LIE sounds... It is still a LIE!!

YOU are WORTHY of the TRUTH!
So instead of Loving the way someone Lies... Love the way they....LEAVE!!

K's Choice - Not An Addict (European version)

This is a perfect Addict song! Love it!

Kings Of Leon - Sex On Fire (Live at O2 London, England) HQ

Just wanted to share some videos of our favorite songs!! Enjoy & Have a RabiesLove Free Day!!!

Roll the Dice...

VEGAS BABY!!!

The excitement of the trip begins even before the flight is booked! Where to stay, What airline has the shortest flight, How much money to take, my heart beat increases just with the planning!
I have a little gambling problem.... I do not just go to Vegas for the shows and to party or sit by the dazzling pools!
No, for me it is extremely strategic. I have literally played in each casino on the main strip... I will gamble for 18hrs straight... I will not eat or sleep while I am there.... I have almost missed flights due to not leaving casinos in time to get to the airport only to hit the slots again while there.

I have no regrets over the money I have gambled and lost while there. I Love the feeling I get when I walk into Palazzo or the MGM Grand!! I have been told that my eyes twinkle like a little child when I see the lights on the slots!!
Casinos to me are utterly intoxicating... my mind is completely focused on whatever game I am betting on and NOTHING else matters. I am annoyed if my phone rings and I also easily irritated if the others around me want to stop gambling and retire for dinner or a show.
Actually, I have been going to Vegas about once a year since 2003 and I have NEVER even seen a show or been down to a pool at any of the hotels where I have a room booked.

Here's the point... I realize... that I am a gambler. I have not sought professional help for my addiction simply because I do not currently live near a casino...
The economy has also helped because I cannot afford to go back anytime soon.

My personal addiction has helped me to somewhat understand other people with addictions. But I have observed that some addicts think that "their" addiction is somehow... better than someone else's.
Example:
Eric, is a pill addict, who is talking shit about Sammy, who is a crack addict.
I mean REALLY???
An addict is.... an ADDICT!!!

Sorry people, there are no VIP addictions!
It does not matter if it is food, porn, gambling, sex, drugs, booze, or people that you are addicted to... you are still... ADDICTED...
Please have sympathy and compassion for other people and their problems!
Be careful not to judge.

As for me... I still hear the "ding ding ding" in my head, I can almost feel the rush that floods my body when I win, and my heart is fluttering even now just typing this!!!
But as of now have no casino plans in my future.... as of now that is!!

Have a great weekend!

The "Other" Mothers...

Today is Mother's Day in the USA. A day to celebrate and honor the wonderful, supportive, nurturing mothers.

But.... what if you have one of the "other" mothers???

Not everyone has that idea "perfect" mother. There are women who carry babies around for nine months and then leave them. There are women who start out trying to be a good mother and loose interest for what ever reason.
The are many mothers who are addicts and their addictions just more important than the children they brought into the world. There are mothers who are spending the next couple of years in prison.
There are mothers who abuse their children or allow others to abuse their children. Less extreme but more common is the neglectful mother who just is too involved with herself to even notice her children.


Hopefully, if this sounds like the woman who gave birth to you.... you lived with someone else growing up....
If not... I am sorry you had to endure that life and you did nothing to deserve that childhood.
This is a taboo topic for people. No one wants to bad mouth their mother.
But... we need to be realistic. Just because women CAN reproduce does not mean that they SHOULD.
These children often grow up feeling inadequate and abandoned.
Will's mother gave birth when she was 17. By the time she was 20 she was a coke addict and left him with his father. Will's father remarries and he claims his step mother as "mom". Will was old enough to remember his birth mother and from time to time she would pop in his life and declare her love and adoration for him.
Even though Will had a secure family home life, every year at Mother's Day he would wonder why he was not enough for his birth mother.
By the time Will completed high school his birth mother had given birth to other children repeating the same pattern as she did with him.
Now in college, Will is in therapy, he has problems with relationships, he is still trying to fill a void that... was left 19 years earlier.

Will is finally learning that he is not ALONE and that other people have been through similar if not worse childhoods.
So.... if you have a toxic "other" mother....
Today on Mother's Day... Take Control and change your thoughts on the relationship.
Yes, this "other" mother is horrible. You are NOT. You are stronger for having dealt with her. You can little by little simply accept who she is and who she is not.

The wonderful reality about being an adult is that you do not have to settle with the family your born into! You can create your adult family! There are many women out there who would LOVE to fill in as mom for you. Be thankful to that "other" mother for bringing you into the world...even if that is ALL she did.... and simply let her go.

You have to let go of the past... and claim your future!

Hit Me Baby... One More Time

Last weekend, I sat through a seminar on "effective communication skills" and the lecturer abruptly shifted the topic to, domestic abuse and the difficultly of persuading these women to leave these life and death relationships.

The statistics tell us that most women will choose to stay in physically abusive relationships... even though they realize that the abuser could potentially kill them.

The majority of women in these extremely toxic relationships make statements like "He/she loves me...I just should shut my mouth sometimes" or basically just make excuses for the behavior of the abuser.

Now, I personally believe these women. I believe that "they".... believe that the abuser loves them.
What I want to say to anyone in one of these situations is.... there is a difference between love and obsession.
Love is... never wanting the other person to be unhappy, or hurt. Love is....NOT inflicting physical PAIN upon the other person.
Obsession.... however, is wanting total control over another person.

I have also over the years came in contact with women who "overlook" the black eye or broken arm because they assaulted the man first.
Well....again I am going to have to disagree with this argument. Let's say Mari is 5 foot 3 inches tall and weighs 100 pounds on a good day... her partner Jeremy is over 6 feet tall weighing in at about 225 pounds. Now that you have a visual.... What if Mari punched him 3 times in the face... and Jeremy punched Mari once? Who is at fault?
Look at the photo above Chris Brown is not a large man and Rihanna admitted to hitting him first. Who is at fault?

Now the politically correct answer is "Both, any violence is wrong"
Bullshit. His hand is literally as large as her head! If he punched her once with any force her check will shatter her nose will break.
This will NOT be the last time Jeremy hits Mari if she chooses to stay.
Look at what Chris Brown did to Rihanna's face!
How many people in physically abusive relationships only get hit once??? How many abusers get treatment and change??? If you know ANY please inform me.

There is a negative stereotype surrounding domestic violence. It is NOT a poor persons plight. I know women who have Dr. as their title and lots of zeros on pay checks who have stayed with men after they have fucked their faces up!
Why? Because they are dehumanized by the event and are too ashamed to talk to anyone.
Ultimately they feel alone.

If you or anyone you know anyone in one of these extremely toxic relationships encourage them to seek professional help. Leaving will be difficult and they will need a strong support system to keep them from going back, and allowing the cycle of abuse to repeat itself...

Do NOT let the abuser cloud your judgement... or belittle you into thinking that it was your fault.
Going back to the abuser is basically giving the green light for future abuse you might as well say "Hit me baby, One More Time"

Progress...

Reward yourself for your progress in your battle against your addiction!

One reason that it is so easy to fall back into bad behaviors is the fact that we fail to reward ourselves for our progress!
Nothing... happens over night... but you NEED to acknowledge your good days and be proud of them!

So.. if today you only called the person you are stalking... 10 times instead of 20 (yes, you are stalking the person "if" you call that many times) REWARD yourself!

If you resisted the urge to drink the whole 5th of Patron... leaving any booze undigested is progress! REWARD yourself!

If you drove by the drug man's house.... and actually did NOT stop. REWARD yourself!

If you ordered salad with NO dressing.... when you really wanted the burger with chili cheese fries! REWARD yourself!

If you turned off you phone... FINALLY... so that you did not engage in text warfare with you toxic significant other. REWARD yourself!

Or maybe you just smoked half a pack instead of two! REWARD yourself!

People with addiction naturally look down upon themselves, they feel extreme guilt, even if initially they do not verbalize these feelings to those around them.
Every minute that you are spending trying to better yourself... even baby steps... is progress worth acknowledgement and rewards!

Just do not REWARD yourself with sex, booze, drugs, food, and smokes!

No seriously I know people that stop using coke for a few days and REWARD themselves on the weekend with a couple of shots. Some how...this never works out well.

It is important to find someone to share this progress with... to help support you.
You are not alone... if you do not want to talk to those around you... talk to me I'll listen and give you support.

You never know how sharing your personal progress with others may help motivate them as well.

Bin Laden is Dead....

Just had to type it....
Bin Laden is Dead....
Enough Said.

Triggers...

Triggers... are the little things that cause us to relapse back into negative behaviors or thought patterns.

Learning to recognize the "people, places, or things" that help nudge us into compulsive actions are vital in any recovery plan...
It does not matter "what" you are recovery from... sex, drugs, drinks, pills, food, or a toxic relationship.

It is a scientific fact that being able to identify "triggers" will help the chances to sustaining a recovery from whatever addiction you are trying to treat.

Now lets be more specific....

Let's say you are a drinker and you have actually... not been drinking... but all of a sudden one day you are with your family at the local park.... here comes Dale, the guy you could ALWAYS count on to save you a seat, at your favorite bar.
As soon as you see Dale... ALL of your thoughts are focused solely on DRINKING.
It's absolute tunnel vision.
Now you do not have to act on those thoughts but chances are.... you may.

A coke addict who has been clean for 3 to 4 months and is just riding in the car with sober friends when the classic Eric Clapton song COCAINE comes on the radio and the friends have no idea that just listening to that song has triggered thoughts of lines cut across a table.....

The same for someone who is trying to discontinue a relationship that YOU KNOW is toxic. You will hear a song or even smell a cologne or perfume that is similar to that of the person you are trying so hard to stay away from... and boom... memories of "good times" will flood your mind and take over your thought process.

Look I do not have a secret to rid you of your "triggers" the point is to acknowledge them so you are prepared.
You will not be able to avoid ALL triggers that is impossible!

I spoke to woman who has been divorced for over 30 years, but there are STILL triggers that cause her to have obsessive thoughts over her ex husband... and she left him!
Just the act of being aware of what the "triggers" are or what they may be... will help you to rationalize the obsessive thoughts that will instantly flood your mind!
Make a list of "triggers" and how you felt.... keep adding to it as you progress with your recovery.

So the lesson for today is simple....
Acknowledge that "triggers" exist! Identify the "triggers" and realize that you have the strength to overcome the thoughts and feelings that "triggers" cause.